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I'm Oprah Winfrey. Welcome to
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Super Soul Conversations, the
1:08
podcast. I believe that one
1:10
of the most valuable gifts you can give yourself
1:12
is time. Taking
1:15
time to be more fully present.
1:18
Your journey to become more inspired
1:20
and connected to the deeper world
1:23
around us starts right
1:25
now. Janine Roth
1:28
has been teaching the principles
1:30
of her groundbreaking bestseller, Women,
1:32
Food and God, for over 30 years. Janine
1:35
was one of the first to help us
1:38
all see beyond the term food
1:40
addict. She believes the level
1:42
of our spiritual well-being can be
1:45
discovered in how, when,
1:47
and what we eat. Thank
1:49
you for joining us for Super Soul. I'm
1:52
thrilled. I think you're one
1:54
of the first people who actually
1:56
years ago made
1:58
the connection that our relationship... to
2:00
food is an exact microcosm
2:03
of our relationship to
2:05
life itself. Yeah. That's
2:08
amazing. And so that connection
2:10
has a profound, as profound an
2:12
impact when you first discovered it as
2:15
it does today. Because I think most
2:17
people can't even understand what that is,
2:19
women, food and God. It's also men too, because
2:21
I've shared the book with men. Yeah.
2:24
Tell us what you mean. Yes. Well,
2:26
what I mean is that if
2:29
you follow one thing
2:31
all the way through to the end,
2:33
you'll find everything. Yeah. And
2:35
so the subtitle of women, food
2:37
and God is an unexpected path
2:39
to almost everything. So how you
2:41
eat and what you believe about
2:43
food, particularly when you're not hungry.
2:46
And if you deprive or judge
2:49
or shame yourself in
2:51
your relationship with food and ask yourself about
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it and just track it all the way
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back, it will lead you to everything. It
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will? Yeah. The
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whole. Yeah. It will
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lead you to the whole. It will lead you to the
3:07
whole and to the whole that you're trying to fill to
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fill yourself up and to the whole that you've been missing
3:11
and to the whole. That's right. To
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the whole, whole. To the whole, whole. To the
3:15
whole. To all of it. Yeah. To
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all of it. So in
3:19
that sense, food is a spiritual issue.
3:21
I'm so glad you said that because
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if you examine your relationship with food
3:27
and you find what's keeping you
3:29
from discovering that whole, whole, that
3:32
actually is the essence of spirituality.
3:34
What you find is that
3:37
your essence, your true
3:39
nature, what many people call
3:41
God, but it's right there and food will
3:44
take you right there. Yeah. It's
3:46
all on the plate. It's all on the plate. So
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in Women, Food and God, you write
3:52
this about the reason
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why we binge. You
3:57
say compulsive eating is an attempt to avoid the absence
3:59
of the whole. of love, of comfort, of
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knowing what to do. In the
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process of resisting this emptiness, in
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the act of turning away from our feelings,
4:08
of trying and trying again to lose the
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same 20, 50, 80 pounds, we
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ignore what could utterly transform
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us. But when
4:18
we welcome what we most want to
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avoid, we evoke that
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in us that is
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not a story that is not
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caught in the past, not some
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old image of ourselves. We evoke
4:32
divinity itself. That's what you
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mean when you say God exists on our plates.
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Yes, that's exactly what I mean. I was just
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going to say, I couldn't have said
4:41
that better myself. And you actually did.
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But I didn't say that. Yes, yes, yes, yes,
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yes. And how did you come to know
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this? You didn't come to know this just
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because you were sitting around thoughtfully, pensively, writing
4:52
stuff. You've been on the journey. No, I
4:54
came to know it because my own issues
4:57
with food were so
4:59
hellish. I really do
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feel like I lived in a hell world for
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many, many years. And
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to the point
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where I wanted to kill myself, and I
5:11
was in fact suicidal, I was a couple
5:13
of days away from killing myself. I
5:16
had gone to a bookstore to discover the best
5:19
way to do this. This was back in the
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late 70s, early 80s. And I
5:23
discovered a book called Fat as a Feminist Issue
5:25
by Susie Orbach. And it
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was the first time, that
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was the first moment where I realized my
5:33
relationship with food was the way that I was
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trying to speak to myself. And
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I knew that shame and deprivation and guilt
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recently shared a three word directive
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in this article you wrote to
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stop the feelings of
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shame after overeating. What are
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they? Be unspeakably kind. Be
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unspeakably kind to yourself. To
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yourself and to that which
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turns to food because
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my newest
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understanding is that
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when people say I have
6:50
a food problem, I don't actually feel like
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it's the I that has
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a food problem. It's not who they
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really know themselves to be. It's not
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their truth. It's not their true nature.
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It's some part of themselves,
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some sort of frozen, unnamed
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and very unwelcome part of
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themselves go away. I don't
7:11
want to hear from you and because
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I call those ghost children. I was
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going to say that one of the
7:17
ghost children. Those are the ghost children
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because they haunt you and what they
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do because we never listen to them,
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they turn to food. Okay so let's
7:26
explain what that means. Yes very good.
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So everybody has as a part of
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their psyche what you call these ghost
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children. I do and they're parts of
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ourselves that got developed in the first
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couple of years of our lives. Yes
7:39
parts of ourselves that got developed but
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are also I've heard it described this
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way that constant tape that plays over
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and over in our hands. Yes that's
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right. That is the story that we
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tell ourselves about ourselves. That's right. Yes
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and we each that ultimately means I'm
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not good enough. That's right. I'm not
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lovable and I'm unworthy. Ultimately that's right.
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Yeah I'm unlovable and I'm unlovable. but
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we each have sort of different takes
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on that theme. It's just thought and
8:05
belief patterns, really, based on
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the stories we tell ourselves. And
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so in order to antidote that,
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it takes naming and welcoming
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the unloved parts
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of ourselves. And
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that's a hard thing to do. So that is what
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we need to begin to do, to
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end this battle, the
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struggle with food, the misuse
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of food forever. In
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2008, Justice Jeanine Roth
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was putting the finishing touches on
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her seminal work, Women, Food and
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God. She was dealt a
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devastating blow. Jeanine and
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her husband Matt were among the thousands
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of people who invested their life savings
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with New York financier, Bernie Madoff. After
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Madoff was sentenced to 150 years in prison
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for operating a $65 billion Ponzi scheme, considered
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the largest financial fraud in
9:00
U.S. history, Jeanine and Matt
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lost everything. How
9:05
do you, when you've had
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your life savings and everything
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that you've planned in your whole
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life, is
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sort of like wiped from under you?
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What prayer do you say? First
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you cry? I cried. I
9:23
had very close friends. The first one
9:25
I called said to me, nothing
9:27
of value has been lost. And
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I said to her, this is not the time
9:32
to be spiritual. That's
9:42
good. That's good. Yes,
9:45
we're only spiritual when
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we're happy and things are going well. We
9:50
have a lot. This
9:54
is not the time to be spiritual. Forget
9:56
it. Yes. I
10:00
realized that's I think but you know
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what opera what that was one of
10:04
the best things that ever happened to
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me in my life so and you
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know why cause when
10:12
you look I lost every we lost everything
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we lost we lost all of
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our money with made off all of it. And
10:19
the 30 years of life savings
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gone. All of it. Got
10:24
a phone call. Jeanine are you
10:26
sitting down. I thought my
10:28
friend was going to tell me she just had a
10:30
bad hair day and instead she said made off this
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in handcuffs and I realized
10:35
we've now lost everything. And
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as you suspected anything before nothing because
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the friend who got us involved with
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it had been invested for
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30 years. And
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they lost everything too. And he
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got all of his other friends into it
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out of the generosity of his heart because
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he really thought yes it was that come
10:56
on this guy so great. But when you
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lose everything because
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I had to focus on what I had not
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what I didn't have because there was no way
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of getting through the night with
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that kind of terror of
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having lost everything talk about shame and
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blame yes, I blame
11:14
you so not seeing for not
11:17
knowing how could anybody not know
11:19
and so and then I realized
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if I was going to live
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if I was going to sleep if I
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was going to exist I had to bring
11:28
mice mind back from the from the terror
11:30
and start focusing on what was good and
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I had to be fierce about it there was
11:35
no choice about
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it because otherwise I would careen
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off into such grief and
11:42
terror and shame and it was not a
11:44
way to live and it took me a
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couple of days to come to this good
11:48
friends who basically said to me focus
11:51
on what you have enough of not
11:55
what you've just lost and so I
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pick up a cup I have a cup. I
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have water I have arms I have
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legs I have breath I have a
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husband I love I still have a
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roof over my head and and you
12:08
know what the most amazing thing happened.
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Within 3 to 4 days maybe
12:14
a week. I was happier
12:16
than I had been in years. When
12:19
you had lost everything yes because when you
12:21
start seeing what you have not what you
12:24
don't have what's good not what what's wrong
12:26
okay, but so tell me what did you
12:28
still have because it's one thing if you
12:30
say I lost everything but my
12:33
house was paid for and I
12:36
had so you know you're going to have your
12:38
home right. I did my house was not paid
12:40
for okay. I had the
12:42
House but which was mortgaged after the health
12:44
plus a home equity line of credit that
12:47
we owed on big
12:49
mortgage car sweaters and
12:51
that was it on the physical
12:53
level so when you get
12:56
the phone call do you first think how are
12:58
we going to live you first think we're
13:01
doomed you first think. Oh
13:03
yes, doomed doomed completely doomed
13:05
doomed doomed. I
13:08
call my husband who's in Antarctica at the
13:10
time and I said hi honey, nobody
13:13
died. But we did lose all of
13:15
our money. We start crying
13:17
both of us he says sweetheart we're
13:19
going to be OK but I had
13:22
confidence in myself after a week
13:24
that that my mind could start going
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to the brink of terror and
13:28
I can bring it back so no
13:30
matter what horrible thing happened ever
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for the rest of my life. I
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saw that if I was
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conscious about noticing what
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I did have not noticing what I
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didn't have noticing what was good that
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changed my mood. Every
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day and that's when it really
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becomes a spiritual principle and practice
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and practice that's the main practice
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when the principal becomes more than
13:57
a principal but becomes a that's
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right. It changed me. It
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changed me because I got
14:04
happier and happier. He
14:07
couldn't steal really what
14:09
was important the most. And, you know...
14:12
Exactly what your friend said. Yes.
14:15
Nothing of value has been lost. Yes, that's
14:17
right. Yeah, don't go talking that spirituality stuffed
14:19
me. Yes. Right.
14:22
So in essence, he couldn't steal... I'll let you
14:24
finish the list. He couldn't steal what was good.
14:26
He couldn't steal, you know,
14:29
the goodness, the everyday
14:31
goodness, the sheer magnificence
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of trees, of earth, of
14:36
the fact that I still had a body and
14:38
I still had a partner that I love. Well,
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you're one of the blessed ones because I know
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a lot of people who went through serious depression
14:44
over that. Yes. And why wouldn't
14:47
you? Yes. Yeah. I
14:50
was just going to say... If you don't have a spiritual practice to
14:52
turn to... If you don't have a spiritual practice, you're lost. Yeah.
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I think if you don't have a spiritual
14:58
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the same spiritual practice that got
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you through that terrible time is
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what But you also applied to
16:02
being in your body, having
16:04
an intention to heal. That's right.
16:06
And using that for food. Yes,
16:09
right. Using that for food.
16:11
Right, because a lot of it is in
16:13
women, food, and God. And so we're talking
16:15
about different kinds of principles that are also
16:17
included in that book, but I've just made
16:19
them more specific. Okay, so
16:21
you've come up with some ways now
16:24
of not just theorizing about what it
16:26
means to have food be
16:29
a spiritual relationship. There are five steps.
16:31
One of them is landing in your
16:33
body. What does that mean? Yes, it's
16:35
coming out of your mind and into
16:37
your body. So most of
16:39
us live in our minds. Of course. I
16:42
mean, I love my mind. It is
16:44
sharp and smart and sparky and feisty.
16:47
And I mean, great mind. And
16:50
so, I mean, and to come down
16:52
here, I mean, so uninteresting. And
16:55
so I think it's
16:57
important because number one, when
17:00
you feed, when you eat, you're feeding this. You're
17:02
not feeding this. I mean, you are, of course,
17:04
ultimately. But you're feeding your body. And I think
17:06
for a long time, I didn't get that. That
17:09
you were feeding your body. Yeah, I mean,
17:11
I was eating for comfort because I was
17:13
sad, because I was lonely, because I was
17:15
grieving, because I was ashamed, because
17:17
I felt unloved. But I didn't quite
17:19
get that the food going in
17:22
the mouth was not about loneliness or
17:24
comfort or sweetness or whatever, or because
17:26
I felt empty, but that I was
17:29
feeding this. So that's one thing. The
17:31
other thing is just gratitude for having
17:33
a body at all. Just
17:36
shearled these arms and
17:38
these legs and
17:40
this heart and this liver have
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schlepped me, have taken me from place
17:45
to place for so many years. And
17:47
what have I done to it? I
17:50
have basically just said, I'm lonely. Here,
17:53
eat this. There was an appreciation.
17:55
It wasn't thank you, Bonnie. I
17:58
think about that a lot. particular I
18:00
think you think about it certainly the
18:02
more mature you get and thoughtful about
18:05
yourself in your life like wow my heart
18:07
has been pumping for 62 years. Wow,
18:13
I know when you go to
18:15
the doctor and you do like
18:17
wow I go wow you beautiful
18:20
heart. Yes, yeah, on
18:22
girl. Yes, that's
18:24
pretty amazing it is amazing and we don't
18:26
wherever you are in your life right now
18:28
that your heart your heart has been doing
18:31
that. Without you have
18:33
thousands of times a day asking the 3rd
18:36
reason I'm I'm very into this
18:38
out of your mind into your body is that
18:40
your body is the only
18:43
place where you can really know presence.
18:46
It's what Eckhart calls the
18:48
power of now yes, yeah because
18:50
it's now your breath is
18:52
only now the sensations in
18:54
your arms in
18:57
your legs. They're happening
18:59
now yeah, I get that
19:01
so they're the gateway to
19:04
everything we say we want which
19:06
is to be in touch with
19:08
presence itself or essence
19:10
or true nature. This
19:13
body is the gateway to that
19:15
so you know you feel my feet are on the
19:18
ground you feel the point of contact your feet are
19:20
making the air yeah, that's it and then you feel
19:22
the Earth and it's like whoa the Earth pretty
19:24
darn good. Yeah, then you feel the
19:27
point of contact your hands are making with each other or
19:30
wherever your hands happen to be and
19:32
then where your back is touching
19:35
and so you just become aware and of
19:38
the presence of your body. Yeah, yeah, that's and
19:40
you are with it and then you're with it
19:42
and if you want to OK so what's that
19:44
going to do for me Janine I'm now fully
19:47
president my body and now what okay, well what
19:49
it will help you not do is
19:52
eat when you're not hungry, okay,
19:54
if you're in your body, it's
19:56
hard to want to put food
19:59
in there. when it doesn't want it.
20:01
So you start a relationship with
20:03
you, with you who you
20:06
take yourself to be, which is sort of the
20:08
voice and your body. And
20:11
you say, am I
20:13
hungry? No. Okay, then
20:16
what do I want? And what does this
20:18
body want right now? So
20:20
you're asking yourself what your
20:22
body wants. To
20:25
help control the urge to binge
20:27
and repair the spiritual connection between
20:29
what you eat and what you
20:31
believe, Janine Roth suggests
20:34
these five steps. First,
20:37
land in your body. Second
20:39
step, name, love, and question
20:41
what Janine calls your ghost
20:43
children. Next, set
20:46
your intention to heal. Number
20:49
four, notice what's good.
20:52
And finally, identify foods
20:55
that work for you. Okay,
20:58
name and love the ghost children.
21:00
Name, love, welcome them.
21:02
It's like, okay, fine. I'm
21:04
run by that part of me that thinks,
21:06
and this is what we usually call I,
21:09
this is what I don't want people to
21:11
do, is call it I. I have this
21:13
feeling that I'm unworthy, or I'm unlovable, or
21:15
I'm always feeling left out. First, I ask
21:17
my students, stop using I when you say
21:19
I, because it's not
21:22
you, you, it's left
21:25
out, Lulu feels left out. Then
21:27
you welcome that, and you say,
21:29
basically to that part, okay, sweetheart,
21:32
all right, honey, here you
21:35
are. And once you welcome them, and
21:38
they hear from you, they relax. Okay,
21:40
so what you're saying is that
21:43
there are parts of yourself that
21:46
are unhealed that keep
21:48
telling yourself the same old nasty
21:51
story. Nasty, really nasty story.
21:53
Whether it's not getting
21:55
enough, or not being enough, the story is
21:57
the same. It comes down to unworth. and
22:01
it has happened because somewhere in
22:03
your life, you didn't
22:05
get what you needed. That's right.
22:07
And there were these feelings of
22:09
unworthiness. And so you continue to
22:12
overeat compulsively, emotionally,
22:15
because of those unmet needs
22:17
that you are trying to
22:19
fulfill. That is what you're
22:21
saying. Absolutely. That's exactly
22:23
what I'm saying. And no matter
22:25
what kind of food eating program
22:28
you go on, I'm counting points
22:30
now, which allow me accountability. Yes.
22:33
But I am also still practicing a
22:36
level of consciousness. Yes. I
22:38
like this being in your body. For mine
22:40
is, like, what do I really want? Yes.
22:44
So I will say one of the things that the
22:47
Weight Watchers program has afforded me, accountability with
22:49
the points. Yes. But I only
22:51
eat what I want. Yes, right. And
22:53
I only eat when I want it. Yes. And
22:56
I stop when I'm full. Yes. And
22:58
sometimes I stop short of the points. And
23:00
so I, like, got points to spare. Because
23:03
darn it, if I'm not full already.
23:05
Right. Yeah. Yes,
23:08
that's right. Yeah. And so
23:10
that's sort of, you know, my
23:12
old slash new eating guidelines. Yes.
23:16
Those were part of that. Eat what your
23:18
body wants. Eat when you're hungry. Eat. Stop
23:21
when you're full. Stop when you're fat enough. And
23:23
have fun. And have fun. And then you have
23:25
to set your intention to heal, you say. Yes. And
23:28
that's where once you, let's
23:30
say it's never enough Nellie that we're
23:33
talking about. Or I'm unworthy, you know,
23:35
or whoever feels unworthy. Well, isn't this
23:37
the case now? This is, you know,
23:40
being accountable to points has really sort of helped me stop and
23:42
think, what do I really want? And do I want to choose
23:44
that over this? Yes. But
23:48
I remember many times just going unconscious.
23:51
I literally remember standing
23:53
in the pantry, just,
23:55
you know, I'm eating almonds. Because, you know, almonds
23:57
are supposed to be healthy for you. but
24:00
not a bucket. So
24:03
I'm saying though a lot of people
24:05
can't name whatever it is whatever is
24:07
the story they're telling themselves because they're
24:09
kind of unconsciously doing it. Yes,
24:12
but if you ask yourself so if
24:14
you're eating unconsciously chances are there's a
24:16
ghost child there that's what I'm saying
24:18
if it's me that eating a bucket
24:21
of almonds then I can pretty
24:23
much bet that something got triggered in
24:25
me that I wasn't aware of when
24:28
it got triggered. Yeah, so she or
24:30
some part of you want something and
24:32
it might just want a
24:34
moment to sit down and
24:37
just find out what got
24:39
triggered what happened there. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah,
24:41
I've been happy. I've been in that
24:43
yeah, okay, so set your
24:45
intention to heal means knowing
24:48
that whenever that thing
24:50
gets triggered hey, hey, just having
24:52
an aha whenever that thing gets
24:54
triggered that's really a holy moment
24:56
for you that's right that's a
24:59
holy moment that you get to
25:01
you get yet another chance. Yes,
25:03
exactly this thing. Yes, that is
25:05
the holy moment. That's why it's
25:07
a doorway that's why food is
25:09
the doorway because when you want
25:11
to eat and you're not hungry,
25:14
you have the chance yet
25:16
another chance to say. Oh
25:21
if my purpose of really when you
25:23
know what your intention is which is
25:25
to show up in this life. While
25:27
you're still here on Earth, that's the other thing that
25:30
showing up in the body does landing
25:32
in your body you get to show up on Earth
25:34
while you're still here. You don't get
25:36
to miss your life. Yeah, that's
25:38
our number one intention and if you're eating
25:40
with my thing is ice cream if I'm
25:42
eating ice cream when I'm not hungry, I'm
25:45
not doing that okay, that's why it's helpful
25:47
to remind myself that my
25:49
intention is to show up completely. Well
25:52
this friend of mine sent me this delicious ice cream so
25:56
I was I send him a note to thank
25:58
him over the holidays and thank you for saying. ice cream. And
26:00
he goes, but he
26:02
goes, I didn't know you were doing the Weight Watchers
26:04
thing. Can you still eat
26:08
ice cream? I said, I can eat anything
26:10
I want. I cannot eat the whole carton.
26:13
I eat it slowly,
26:16
intentionally and
26:18
deliberately. And I enjoy
26:21
every spoonful until I
26:24
no longer feel that sensation
26:26
of pleasure. Yes, fabulous.
26:29
Is it? Because when you
26:31
eat compulsively or
26:33
emotionally, you're missing the taste of
26:35
food. Yeah, I would agree with
26:37
that. You're doing it to assuage
26:39
the loneliness or whatever got triggered,
26:41
but you're doing it for that. No,
26:43
you're doing it to fill the hole.
26:45
Yes, to fill that hole. Okay,
26:48
the next step I love so much. Yes,
26:50
taking the goodness all around. We
26:53
miss so much goodness by
26:55
just walking past it, by
26:57
not taking time every
27:00
single day to see
27:02
the magnificence of what's
27:04
around us. That's another way
27:06
of letting yourself have pleasure and deliciousness.
27:09
Taking the goodness all around and
27:12
do it at least four or five times a
27:14
day. And just
27:16
for maybe 10 seconds, 15 seconds, just
27:19
like that, notice what's good.
27:22
Often we look through loops of lack or
27:26
eyes of lack. Well, this is what, so when I
27:28
read this, preparing for you coming on the
27:31
show, I
27:34
thought, wow, that's really good because you
27:36
know, I'm a big proponent of the
27:38
Gratitude Journal. Yes. And I
27:40
must say, I've been gratitude for so
27:42
long that it's like, gratitude, five things
27:45
every day that I'm thankful for. Yeah,
27:47
I may put them on the list.
27:49
Right. I said, I'm going to
27:51
try, I'm going to still do the
27:53
gratitude thing in the evening as a
27:56
sort of my spiritual ritual, but
27:58
I'm going to try at least three. three times
28:00
a day just to stop and
28:04
in my own present state,
28:06
think about what's going right because you say
28:09
so many people, you're
28:11
saying people think all the time about
28:13
what's going wrong. Let's look at what's
28:15
not going wrong. So I rephrased it
28:17
because I don't want the word wrong
28:19
in my energetic space. So I say
28:21
I'm going to stop at least three
28:23
times during the day and
28:26
think about what's going right. Exponentially,
28:29
your day gets better. Yes. It
28:31
really does. Without a doubt. It
28:33
is better than the five count
28:35
at the end of the day.
28:37
I know. Because you're doing it
28:39
all day long. That's right. Exactly.
28:41
And so you're establishing what I
28:43
call a ground of goodness five
28:45
times a day. You just realize there
28:48
are so many more things going right that
28:50
are going wrong. That's right. Because the brain
28:53
has a chance, which all the neuroscientists tell
28:55
us, that the bad is
28:57
like Velcro and the good is like
28:59
Teflon. And unless you actually focus on
29:02
the good consistently, intensely, frequently, your brain
29:04
can't lay down new loops. But anyway,
29:06
that's just a fancy way of saying
29:09
stop many times a day and look
29:11
at what's good. Yes. Those
29:13
people remember losing $50 more than they
29:15
remember finding $50. That's right. Yes. You
29:18
think I lost, I lost, I lost
29:20
the $50. Yes. Amazing though. Yes. Did
29:23
you find that for yourself that when you stop during
29:25
the day and think about what's going right? I
29:28
find that for myself. I do
29:30
that every day. I do it when I wake
29:32
up. I do it three or four times during
29:34
the day. Do it before I go to sleep.
29:36
And the second I do that, my whole energy
29:38
shifts. There's an energy shift. That's what I
29:40
found. Yes. Your day
29:42
gets better because you have now stopped and had
29:44
your little gratitude moment. Yes. Right. Right in the
29:47
middle of a day. Right. And your heart feels
29:49
open again. You know, I mean, I can get
29:51
very crunched down. Yeah. And
29:53
then, then if I notice what's good, then
29:55
I feel open again. And I identify foods
29:58
that work for you because when you're paying
30:00
attention you will certainly now this is interesting
30:02
I read that you don't believe that we're
30:05
addicted to sugars or carbs. I
30:08
I feel like that whole thing
30:10
with addiction has gotten a and
30:12
food has made people feel
30:15
bad about what they eat has
30:17
put moral judgments on what they
30:20
eat has made them feel uptight
30:22
and has led to a lot of unnecessary
30:24
shame you don't feel that if you eat
30:26
more sugar, I know for sure if I
30:28
start eating sugar
30:31
then that's going to make me
30:33
want something savory and salty and
30:35
then it sort of triggers a
30:37
thing in physiologically. So I'm not
30:39
saying that physiological reactions don't happen.
30:42
But what I am saying is
30:44
that where I feel like that
30:47
has become the thing of well if I
30:49
only stop eating sugar and if I stop
30:51
eating this and if I stop doing that
30:54
my whole eating problem will clear up. I
30:56
don't believe right and that's what I'm saying
30:58
that what happens is we're addicted to the
31:00
thought before we turn to food, you know
31:03
those stories you're talking about we've had those
31:05
billions of times and we are addicted to
31:07
telling those stories like dogs with bones. I
31:10
get that's what we're addicted to. We
31:13
are walking talking expressions of
31:15
our deepest convictions, everybody gets
31:17
that right we are walking
31:20
talking expressions of our deepest
31:22
convictions. Everything we
31:24
believe about love about fear about
31:27
transformation and God is revealed in
31:29
how when
31:32
and what we eat. Yes,
31:36
so in that moment what I'm
31:38
saying is feelings can't be felt.
31:42
I'm never going to get to the truth of who I
31:44
am. I might as well
31:46
eat. This is the best this
31:48
life has to offer me. That's
31:51
what I'm talking about I get
31:53
what you're talking in that moment,
31:56
all of those beliefs are revealed
31:58
in me choosing. to eat
32:01
that instead of believing that
32:03
it's possible to show up.
32:06
It's possible to feel the feelings. They're not going
32:08
to kill me. Fear isn't going to kill us.
32:11
Grief is not going to kill us. It
32:13
might feel like it is at a certain
32:15
time. But feelings don't destroy us. Absolutely. Okay.
32:18
Answer this question. I
32:21
feel the presence of God when? When
32:24
I'm outside in nature. Hmm. I
32:27
experience love when? I'm
32:30
with my husband when I'm being my
32:32
true self. I
32:34
am living my purpose when? I
32:38
am speaking the truth. Mm-hmm. When
32:41
I am being kind. Mm-hmm.
32:44
When I'm showing up completely with all
32:46
I've got. Like that one,
32:48
too. Okay. My
32:51
life force is
32:54
most fulfilled when?
32:58
Whoo. When, um. This is
33:01
where I mean we are talking like
33:04
major heavy hitters here
33:06
when I am teaching,
33:09
when I'm writing, when
33:11
I am in my heart. My
33:16
hope for my legacy is? That
33:20
people will take
33:22
what I've said and what I've written, pass it
33:25
on to their children, and be unspeakably
33:30
kind to themselves, to
33:32
nature. The most difficult
33:34
choice I've had to bake to
33:36
fulfill my destiny is? Not
33:38
having children. I
33:41
decided not to have children because I
33:43
felt like I couldn't give
33:45
myself fully to my work and
33:47
be a really good mother. And.
33:50
Me too. Yeah.
33:53
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And
33:55
I knew that there was something. One would suffer. Yes,
33:57
one would suffer. Yeah, there are people for whom. It
34:00
doesn't, but I knew for me, one would suffer. Same with
34:02
me. I just knew that was going to happen. I knew
34:04
that was going to happen. OK, here's a
34:06
good one. What is
34:08
the word that
34:13
best describes who you
34:15
are and why you
34:17
are here? Word
34:21
or words, you don't have to limit
34:23
it to one. Well, you
34:26
know, I feel like I
34:28
made some kind of contract before I came to Earth.
34:30
I don't know if this is true or not, that
34:33
I was going to go
34:36
through a lot of
34:38
stuff that wasn't really easy to
34:40
go through and
34:44
be able to transform it or somehow work
34:46
with it so that I could teach other
34:49
people, so I
34:51
could be a spokesperson for
34:53
change. And I could
34:55
reach people from personal experience, so
34:58
that I could let people know that no matter
35:00
what they've gone through, including losing all their money,
35:04
they could come out
35:07
being magnificent, pretty much.
35:10
And I really believe that. I
35:12
believe that no matter what,
35:15
and if you live in food hell
35:17
or lose all your money, there's
35:20
a way of working with it. No
35:22
situation is unworkable. What inspires
35:24
you? Well, nature always
35:27
inspires me. I just keep coming back
35:29
to nature. People who tell the
35:31
truth inspire me.
35:34
What is the lesson, Miss
35:37
Janine, that took you the
35:39
longest to learn? I
35:42
can tell you what is still taking me the
35:44
longest to learn, which is
35:47
unconditionally loving
35:51
myself, cherishing myself, welcoming
35:53
myself. And I think that's why I'm
35:55
so good at talking about it, because
35:58
it's been. You know, I've
36:00
had a pretty intense inner critic,
36:04
and I've gone through a lot of judgment and shame. And
36:07
so I keep learning this over and over
36:09
and over again. And
36:11
so I think I'm still learning
36:13
it. What do you think is
36:15
the clearest, cleanest, most
36:18
open path to your authentic self? You
36:20
mean besides your relationship with food? Because
36:22
that's a big path. I feel like
36:25
that's a really big path. And
36:27
I feel like most women don't
36:30
value that enough. I
36:32
just don't feel like most women do. They
36:35
think it's just a matter of willpower. And
36:37
if I can just, you know,
36:39
get it together, then everything's gonna be okay. But
36:41
it's the path that's right in front of them
36:44
that is the clearest path. I mean, that's
36:46
what I believe, the path that's right in
36:48
front of you. That's the path. That's the
36:50
path. And so whatever
36:52
that is, and for women who are
36:55
struggling or suffering with their relationship with
36:57
food, that's the path. And for
36:59
me, that was the path. That's
37:02
the path to your most authentic self. That's the
37:04
path to the whole. Yeah, that's the path to
37:06
the whole. It has been a delight to talk
37:09
to you and see you again. Oh, so lovely.
37:11
It's been a joy. A joy. Yeah.
37:13
Thank you. Yeah. I'm Oprah
37:16
Winfrey, and you've been listening to
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